101 ways to screw up a marriageGet married
stay married, repeat 99 times
I'll make a list for real here in a bit, and you can pitch in. Isn't interactive blogging just great? I love interaction. And interaction is a crucial part of marriage. One of the main reasons a marriage fails is lack of quality interaction. Spouses go their own ways, and do their own things. They grow tired of chasing after the other one and the hobbies that person pursues, in favor of hobbies they actually like. You see in the dating/impression phase, people like to pretend they are actually interested in the other persons interests. Well, this can be good, or it can be bad. A person could actually pick up a new hobby and like it, or they could hate it. Which leads to you either doing something you hate, or never getting to spend time with your spouse.
Myself? I got stuck doing things I hated, just because I was desperate to hang out with my spouse. He could have cared less one way or the other. Then the next spouse? I decided to pick one who had NO hobbies other than smoking, drinking mocha's and watching TV. And this turned out horrible, because he was around ALL THE TIME. I went from one extreme to the other. Where's the DAMN MIDDLE GROUND. WHERE'S THE "THIRD ONES THE CHARM".
Ways to screw up a marriage women first
there you have just a little tip of the iceberg so to speak. there's not 101 things there, but then i never was any good at math. i'm good at a lot of things, but only because I had to learn a lot of things. The reason for that is my husbands never did squat for me. after they win the prize, they just backed off and did their own thing. They like to ask what they can do to help, but whatever it is, it needed to fall within the range of things they like to do. One thing I heard from someone was "i don't DO windows". What I wanted to say, was "well, I don't WANT to do a LOT of things, but someone has to". ass
Obviously I picked badly twice in a row. And I do learn from my mistakes. so the liklihood of me ever picking badly again or picking at all are slim to none. Yes, I have faults, and I've willing to admit those. Actually if you knew me, you know I can pretty much get along with anyone. That's a quality that comes in handy at work. My favorite boss told me, I'm a very reasonable person, and he worked with me everyday. I've had to get along with a lot of difficult people in my life. ok
enough of my blabbering.